“It is wise to direct your anger towards problems – not people; to focus your energies on answers – not excuses.” ~William Arthur Ward
As I was driving to work today I got stuck behind someone driving incredibly slow. I don’t speed much, but I will consistently go 5 over the posted limit if the road is open ahead of me. I tend to get very frustrated when people drive 5 under, especially when there is no reason to do so.
Its something I need to work on because there is absolutely no need to stress over such a trivial matter.
Anyways, I was frustrated with the guy in front of me for his lack of hustle in getting to work on time. I mentally blamed him for every traffic light we didn’t make. I was wrong to do so for a number of reasons, but primarily because after I was behind him for a bit I realized it wasn’t even his driving which held up the line of cars behind me, it was the slower driver in front of him who displayed no sense of urgency.
I saw what I thought to be the cause directly in front of me and put the blame squarely on the shoulders of that red Honda accord. I was wrong. I failed to realize that the accord was merely a contributing factor. The silver car in front of him which I didn’t notice at first was the primary cause.
How strange it is that we often just look for a scapegoat in our lives, and never seem to find the true source of the problem. I know I am guilty of just dispensing blame, rather than proactively seeking the truth and solving the problem at its core. I must always remember to find the truth first, to conceive a solution and not allow myself to become frustrated, thereby solving exactly nothing.
“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day, you shall begin it well and serenely…” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson